A couple once called me at their wit’s end, ready to return their year-old Goldendoodle because he just wouldn’t settle down. A simple change made a world of difference for them.
Dealing with Goldendoodle energy: what to really expect
This is a question I get all the time: “When will my Goldendoodle finally settle down?” If you’re anything like most couples looking for their first dog, you probably want a pup that’s friendly, smart, and also able to chill out when it’s family time.
Here’s what I’ve learned from years breeding Goldendoodles (and hearing from their owners after they take their puppy home).
Are Goldendoodles really that energetic?
To be honest, yes—they tend to have higher energy than their Bernedoodle cousins. But it’s not one-size-fits-all. The parents’ personalities play a big role, too. I’ve had Goldendoodle moms who were absolute couch potatoes, and their puppies inherited that mellow streak. Others are off-the-wall energetic, especially the minis and the smaller doodles.
So while it’s true Goldendoodles usually have more zip than Bernedoodles, there are definitely some who surprise me with how laid-back they are. If calmness is at the top of your wish list, always ask about the parents first.
When do Goldendoodles typically calm down?
Most Goldendoodles start to settle around 15 months old. For some, it takes a little longer—up to two years, or even more in rare cases. You’ll usually notice the first signs during the 8–10 month mark, but don’t expect a totally relaxed dog while they’re still “teenagers.” That wild puppy energy can last well into year two for some dogs.
That said, by the time your Doodle is five, you’ll notice a huge difference compared to life with a one-year-old. The energy tapers off a lot, and most become much easier to live with.
What influences a Goldendoodle’s energy?
Here’s what I’ve found really matters:
- Genetics: The biggest factor is the personality of the parents. Calm parents—calmer pups, more often than not.
- Breed: Goldendoodles are generally more energetic than Bernedoodles, but they’re not the highest-energy dog out there.
- Size: The minis and smaller Doodles tend to be a little more energetic than standards.
- Exercise: This makes a big difference. If your Doodle is bouncing off the walls, increasing exercise is the fastest way to see improvement.
- Training: Training doesn’t make your dog physically tired, but it does teach them to control those impulses. A well-trained dog just feels more settled.
- Gender: Once spayed or neutered, there’s not much difference in energy levels between males and females.
Can training or exercise speed things up?
You can’t rush maturity, but you can help your Goldendoodle handle their energy better. Plenty of exercise—walks, playtime, and especially playing with other dogs—plus good training go a long way. The dog who’s tired from a run at the park and knows how to settle on command is a lot easier to live with, even if they’re still young.
I’ve seen families at the end of their rope with an energetic Doodle, only to have things turn around with the right trainer. I tell everyone: don’t skip training. Find a trainer with glowing reviews, or one that friends recommend. It can change your life with your Doodle.
Is my Doodle’s behavior normal?
If your dog’s just “hyper,” there’s usually nothing wrong beyond needing more exercise or time to mature. But if you’re seeing biting, ignoring commands, or other bad habits, it’s definitely time to get help from a professional trainer. Every puppy goes through a nippy stage, but it shouldn’t get out of control.
Red flags to watch for
To be honest, I’ve never seen a Goldendoodle who never settles down at all. Some take longer than others, but over time, they all mellow out—though some only after a few years.
Quick tips for a calmer Doodle
- Make exercise a daily priority. A tired Doodle is a happy Doodle.
- Give them a job—training, puzzle toys, nose work, etc.
- Play with other dogs if possible—dog parks are great for burning off energy.
- Try “calming” probiotic treats if your vet recommends them. (I haven’t used the calming type myself, but regular probiotics are a staple around here.)
- Stick to training. The better they listen, the less their energy overwhelms you.
Should you choose a Bernedoodle instead?
If a lower-energy dog is really important to you, I’ll be honest—Bernedoodles are more likely to fit the bill. Sometimes I do suggest couples choose a Bernedoodle over a Goldendoodle if they’re worried about being able to keep up.
But there are definitely calm Goldendoodles out there. If you want to maximize your chances, ask the breeder about the parents’ personalities. That’s your best insight into what to expect from the puppies.
In closing
Before choosing your puppy, ask: “What are the parents like?” That answer will do more to predict your future than anything else.